"What do you want to be?" "Happy," she says with a smile. - Colleen Hoover

Tuesday, April 26, 2016

I'm A Duff: Taryn Bashford

Before I share Taryn's story with you I want to thank her for taking the time to write and share her story. It has been an absolute pleasure getting to know her and I'm so thankful for her time.

It seems everyone at high school had a clique to fit intonot me. I skirted around the edges of cliques because I didnt fit into any of them. As I wore glasses, I couldnt possibly be in the popular cliquein those days glasses were very unflattering, and I was simply known as four eyes. I did notice if you complimented a popular girls shoes or bag, theyd grace you with a huge smile and two seconds-worth of attention, so I learnt a lesson there. But I was too stubborn to follow the social rules and didnt try that again.

I was good at school work, and loved to read and write, in fact I lost myself in study (still a workaholic today) and so might have been in the ‘smart kid’ clique, but I was too sporty to fit there. I represented my school in athletics, swimming, field hockey, badminton, and basketball. I was mainly a 400m runner and later in my teens, trained for the Olympics (I didn’t make it and went to college instead).
Then there’s the music cliqueI played piano, clarinet and violin. But I didnt like pop music, so no fit there either.
Recently, I completed the Pottermore Sorting Hat test and discovered I am a Ravenclaw. This made me laugh as it’s the house I’m least familiar with, but one of the traits is a love of individuality. So maybe that’s itI skirted the cliques because I was just being all the different sides of ME.
I highly recommend this route. Don’t be anyone’s DUFF, but you don’t have to ‘fit’ in a group either. Instead find your own fit and get comfortable in your own body. And most of all, choose how you react to peoplejust as you dont like everyone you meet, not everyone will like you. AND THAT’S OKAY!
If you’d like a free downloadable ebook about changing your ‘I’m Not Good Enough’ mindset in quick easy steps, it’s a click away on www.tarynbashford.com"


  1. Thanks Kayleigh. It's been a pleasure working with you too and I think your message in this blog is awesome.

  2. Great life lesson at the end. It took me a while to figure out that it was okay not to have everyone like me. The world will keep on ticking either way.

    1. I love Taryn's story, I agree with the life lesson at the end of it. She's such a sweet person to talk to!!